Dos & Don'ts of Wedding Planning
Let’s be honest...weddings can be so incredibly overwhelming! You get engaged, you share that ring pic on Instagram and immediately the questions start: What’s your date? Where are you getting married? Who is your photographer? Who is your videographer? It can be a lot all at once and often that leads to stress. It’s an exciting time in your life and all of a sudden it’s about decisions, decisions, decisions.
I got married in 2012 but since then I’ve attended many weddings, helped multiple friends plan and have learned a lot being in the wedding industry. I thought I’d pass along a few tips that I’ve picked up along the way!
Here are the 4 Dos and Don’ts to start Wedding Planning
Don’t pick your date right away. Do find out open dates at venues!
So often I hear from couples, “We had to settle with this venue because our date was already booked!” That makes me so sad! If there is any kind of flexibility in your year, I highly recommend reaching out to your top 3 venues and ask for their open dates for the year you’re getting married. If there is a date that is important to you, then automatically there should be expectations that not everywhere will be available for your date!
Don’t create your guest list right away. Do choose your photographer and videographer!
This was something I heard from Kimberly Persons, an Omaha wedding planner. It made so much sense in my mind! She said it’s similar to starting a business. As a business owner, I figure out my Cost of Doing Business (CODB) before I start to think about profits and how much I need to work this year to make what I want! So in that sense, it’s important to hire the “fixed” price vendors: photographer, videographer, officiant, etc...These are the vendors that will be the same price no matter how many people you invite! This ensures that you can hire the amazing vendors that you want!
Don’t forge ahead without talking with all parties involved. Do decide who’s paying for what!
Finances can be a really tricky part of wedding planning. It totally depends on your family dynamic if it’s a conversation that you and your fiance bring up or if it’s something your family offers! I think that no matter what it is a conversation that needs to be had. It can be as easy as approaching your family and saying “Hey! We are beginning to wedding plan and would love to have you be included in that conversation. Are you comfortable with that?”
Don’t focus just on the wedding! Do focus on your Marriage!
This is the #1 tip that I have to pass along. Whether you do pre-marriage counseling, pre-Cana, attend a retreat or do some reading, it’s important for you to invest in your future. Your wedding day is over in 24 hours but your marriage is a lifetime! Contact your pastor, officiant, trusted friend and ask for their recommendations around your town. If you don’t want in-person or you guys are long distance, I highly recommend reading The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman and Men, Women and the Mystery of Love by Dr. Edward Sri. These two books set my husband and I up well to begin learning how each of us function. Over the years, we have slowly grown to understand each others priorities in the home and at work and how this translates into our daily lives. With the basis of understanding that we are different and we can’t change each other’s innate personalities and temperaments, we communicate effectively and can live better together!