6 Reasons Why We Love A First Look

photo: Lacework Films Omaha Wedding Videography First Look

Seeing your spouse before the wedding ceremony – capturing a first look – was once considered a big no-no (and, in all honesty, many couples still swear by its bad luck). But with all the tasks that must get done on your wedding day, the one thing that often gets left out is special time with the love of your life

There’s nothing that tends to give me goosebumps (the good kind!) more than the moment that a bride and groom melt into each other when they see each other for the first time! That’s why we at Lacework Films think that a "First Look" can be a super special moment shared between you and your person. 

That’s right! Most of the wedding day traditions we honor often exclude time exclusively for one another. Your first dance may be the only time alone – but all your guests will be watching, with flashes popping and little or no intimacy. Not always super romantic, huh? 

That’s why we have come to believe that a wedding first look is the potentially one of the best ideas no matter what your wedding day schedule looks like. 

Remember: It’s Your Day

Here’s a bit of good news! Your wedding day is your wedding day… and you can do whatever you want (and, yes, that even includes carving out a few minutes for one another). A first look provides you a few minutes, just before the ceremony, for you and your almost-spouse to share some special time and love.

Some couples choose to not see one another until the bride walks down the aisle and that is totally okay, too. Even if you want to do this, you can still be near each other before the big reveal. For example, you can hold hands around a corner, stand on opposite sides of a door, write one another a sweet love note to read, or even stand back to back – and get the footage and photos to capture those special moments and preserve them forever. These few minutes can be so special, so don’t let them go to waste! 

Not convinced yet that a first look between you and your love is the way to go? Here are some of the reasons we at Lacework Films think a first look can be beneficial to your wedding day, and you two as a couple.

Why Do A First Look on Your Wedding Day?


You Will End Up With More Beautiful Videos & Photos 

Wedding videography and photography can often be an investment, so make the most of it! First look videos and photos are the ones that you will cherish forever, that will fill up your albums, that will adorn your wedding thank you cards, and that will be proudly be hung in your first home! 

After your wedding is just a memory, a few things remain. Your wedding footage and photos will bring you back to that special place and time, so in our opinion, the more memories… the merrier!


It Will Give You Extra Time to Calm Your Nerves

Your wedding day can be a little overwhelming (so much planning and coordinating all for one day)! Who better to calm your nerves than the person you’ve chosen to have by your side from this day forward? 

Not to mention, when you see each other for the first time, you won’t have a room full of people staring at you (as we touched on above, e.g. as you walk down the aisle). The first look between you and your love is a beautifully intimate and moment and should be forever remembered!

We Repeat: Alone Time is Wonderful

We can’t stress it enough – the alone time that a first look provides you and your soon-to-be-husband with is so, so, so, so romantic

You’ve heard it time and time again that “Your wedding day will go by so fast!” and it’s true. You will be greeting family, reuniting with friends, and will likely not otherwise get alone time with your precious bride or groom. 

Wedding first looks capture true closeness and raw emotion while giving the happy couple a magical private moment; a moment to reflect, soak each other in, and truly remind yourselves what the day is all about.


First Looks Make Your Wedding Schedule More Relaxed

Wedding timelines are necessary… but sticking to them can turn out to be a real challenge. Things happen no matter how much you plan, especially while trying to get the family formals, bridal party photos, and couple portraits/videos all during cocktail hour. 

Instead of rushing off after your ceremony to a lengthy shoot, you will get to head straight to your reception. So, grab a glass of champagne and use the extra time to dance the night away!

Create A More Intimate Experience

I’ve noticed a ton of couples that double their first look as a time to share personal vows with each other. The couple uses a piece of their private, together-time to share these intimate vows with each other and to capture the super-romantic moment on camera. 

At the altar, you may decide to exchange traditional vows… but that doesn’t mean that personal vows have to be taken out of the picture completely! During the ceremony, it’s totally acceptable to opt for a traditional vow exchange – it’s classic, professional, and uniform. But feel free to also use the first look opportunity as a time to share the intimate, individual vows you and your spouse-to-be also plan to uphold throughout your marriage.

You Call The Shots

Again, your wedding day is your day, so it’s up to you how you want to see it unfold! But if you’re a couple who is teeter-tottering on the idea of whether or not to do a first look, we say go for it! After all, there really is nothing too taboo to worry about. 

Consider this – did you know that the superstitious tradition of a bride and groom not seeing each other before the wedding originated in a time of arranged marriages? 

It’s true!! 

There was actually a fear that if they saw each other before the wedding, they would have a chance to change their mind and back out of the arranged marriage. Nothing sentimental about that! 

So throw your superstitions out of the window and head into your wedding day any way that you’d like. If that includes doing a first look, then more power to you! 

What’s next? Contact the experts at Lacework Films to book a magical wedding first look session (and so much more)! I love working with couples and witnessing firsthand the amazing things they are doing in the world.  I truly love serving you and would be honored to team up together to ensure your wedding memories last a lifetime! 

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